7/22/2023 0 Comments Spit spat spitted![]() ![]() I realized that I like things maybe a little rougher and, well, less conventional than I'd thought was okay, and that this is nothing to be ashamed of-there are other people out there who share your predilections or who have so-called odd tastes of their own. This is especially true when it comes to sex. That encounter taught me one of life's great, momentous lessons: You have no idea what you'll like until you like it. ![]() The relationship didn't last, but the epiphanies it occasioned did. In my mind, the two were inextricably bound. Maybe I'm connecting the dots tendentiously here, but I'd like to think that his creativity and antiauthoritarianism made him experimental, audacious, willing to take risks and to risk humiliation, artistically and sexually. Sometimes, when I'd call my apartment from the office late in the afternoon, he'd answer the phone from my bed. He never had any money (though I hear he has since become quite successful), had recently gotten out of rehab, and kept what I called "musician's hours"-staying up late into the night to develop his photographs, his art, with which he was manically obsessed. This guy, though, the spitter, he was an artist, freaky in the good sense of the word, and something of a bad boy, to employ a useful cliché. I love beautiful gifts and fancy restaurants as much as the next girl, but the men offering them bored me. These guys gave perfume or cashmere as gifts and frequented the kind of restaurants where waiters comb the tablecloths free of crumbs between courses. I'm sure this at least partly accounts for why I spent my early twenties dating nice, vanilla-pudding business guys and having lots of polite, missionary-style sex. In that strict, efficient moral universe, there were rules-some tacit, some explicit-about the way one did everything, and I followed them. I was raised midwestern and ultra-Catholic. It will probably sound like an overstatement to say this, but in that moment, my world cracked wide open. Play icon The triangle icon that indicates to play I reached up, wiped the saliva from my eyes, and kept going. I could have climbed off and run to hide in my bathroom, leaving him there, naked, embarrassed. ![]() I could have spit right back at him, enraged. We'd been together just a few weeks and had sex only a handful of times. It felt dirty, weird, wrong, but also thrilling that he'd decided to try something that unexpected, that out there, during the exhilarating trust fall that is sex. He'd taken aim.Īfter a few seconds spent considering whether I should feel upset and dismayed, disrespected and indignant, I had to admit to myself that I liked it, a lot. I mean, it's not like he was on top and just kind of accidentally drooled on me. ![]() Did he just spit on me? What? But there was no mistaking what had happened. He looked me in the eye, held my gaze, and…spit in my face. I leaned forward to kiss him, my bare chest touching his, my hair curtaining both our faces. This story begins, as they say, in medias res. Is it getting hot in here? Or is it just us? From Friday, January 9 through Friday, January 16, is doing a deep dive into the world of female sexuality-from the perils of being a 24-year-old virgin in New York City to a beginner's guide to exhibitionism to the steamiest scenes in film history. ![]()
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